Finding OK - Healing After Sexual Assault and Abuse
An intersectional healing podcast for survivors of sexual assault and any/all abuse. When survivors share, they share strength. "Finding OK" helps people navigate this difficult healing process. The focus is on recovery, self-care, empowerment, and healing. You are not alone.
Episodes
85 episodes
Let Me Prey Upon You - Healing After Clergy Abuse
Sandy Phillips Kirkham is a survivor of clergy abuse and the author of, "Let Me Prey Upon You". Sandy was very active in her church growing up, her faith was the center of her life. When she was 16 her youth pastor groomed and manipulated her i...
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Season 5
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Episode 6
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1:33:18
Escaping Fundamentalism and Speaking Out - Part 2
Part 2 of my interview with Andrew Pledger. This episode will focus on Andrew's experience with conversion therapy, how he found support exiting fundamentalism, his expulsion from BJU, and the work he's doing healing and speaking ou...
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Season 5
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Episode 5
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1:50:43
Escaping Fundamentalism and Speaking Out - Part 1
Andrew Pledger was raised in a fundamentalist Christian cult and realized in his youth that he was gay. He attended Bob Jones University, which is a fundamentalist Christian college with a chilling history of abuse. While there, Andrew was bull...
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Season 5
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Episode 4
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2:10:35
Raising Yourself
Alice Cottonsox joins me to talk about recovering from childhood abuse, battling Agoraphobia, and facing online hate with humor. Alice is very open about her mental health struggles in her viral videos and she's helping many survivors feel less...
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Season 5
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Episode 3
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55:36
Broken vs. Wounded
Do you think of yourself as "broken" because of your trauma? What about "wounded"? My sister Chie and I discuss how the language we use to talk about our trauma intersects with our healing. This episode is an invitation to investigate the hidde...
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Season 5
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Episode 2
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21:00
Personal Update - Witches, Crows, Art, and Growth
I'm back! Welcome to Season 5! Today I'll be sharing some of what I got up to over my break, letting you know what's new in Season 5, and talking about what's alive for me in my personal healing journey right now. In March my sister Chie an...
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Season 5
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Episode 1
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52:08
Gratitude and Personal Updates
This is the last episode of Season 4! Today I'll be taking some time to thank everyone who made this season possible, updating you about how I'm doing, and what I'll be getting up to over break!New episodes will resume in July 2023. Just be...
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Season 4
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Episode 15
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57:55
Letters for the Fire
Letters for the Fire is a listener participation project. Listeners were invited to write a letter to their rapist or abuser, and I promised to read them before burning them in a ritual. The goal is to create a community opportunity for cathars...
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Season 4
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Episode 14
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40:59
Did The Best I Could & Doing The Best I Can
Ruth is a survivor who has been facing her past and doing the work. She's a listener who is sharing some of her story and discussing some of the steps she's been taking in her life to heal. She's been meeting her trauma with courage, humanity, ...
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Season 4
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Episode 13
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1:20:33
Self-Care and Emotional Regulation
My sister Chie joins me to talk about our evolving understanding of self-care and emotional regulation. We are both survivors navigating life and CPTSD. I hope you'll join us for some laughter and real talk.Chie has a BA in Somatic Ps...
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Season 4
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Episode 12
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1:36:57
The Recloseted Lesbian - Processing Trauma Through Art and Storytelling
Obelis is a Lithuanian Fantasy and LGBTQ+ comic artist. Her work includes War & Tea, Meow Are You?, and The Recloseted Lesbian. Obelis tried to come out as a lesbian but was forced back into the closet by her ultra-religious, homophobic, an...
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Season 4
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Episode 11
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1:08:49
Claiming Freedom - Letting Go of Shame and Blame
Kalpashree Gupta joins me to share her journey in healing from childhood sexual abuse. We discuss letting go of shame and blame, what forgiveness means to her, breaking cycles of family trauma, and where she's found strength, grace, and empower...
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Season 4
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Episode 10
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1:21:14
One Life One Heart
Michelle M. Kang is the founder and president of One Life One Heart, a nonprofit organization which helps underserved sexual abuse survivors by offering culturally sensitive community support. She has dedicated herself to creating safe spaces w...
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Season 4
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Episode 9
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1:14:23
Reclaiming Power - Talking Shit With P
Paula Mulamula is the host of the Mental Health podcast, Talk Shit With P where she focuses on real talk and breaking the stigma surrounding mental health issues. Today Paula is breaking her silence and sharing her story of surviving sexual ass...
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Season 4
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Episode 8
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2:01:11
Healing After Family Abuse
Emi is a survivor of family sexual abuse; she was molested by a family member over a long period of time as a young kid. After spending over a decade hiding from her past she decided to try to heal from it. Her healing journey led her to starti...
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Season 4
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Episode 7
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1:33:22
Start By Believing
Hollis Brown's platform as Miss Wisconsin USA is focused on survivor advocacy, and she’s a part of End Violence Against Women International’s “Start By Believing” campaign. Today Hollis speaks about her assault in college, how trauma changed he...
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Season 4
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Episode 6
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1:26:37
Purity Culture is Grooming - Part 2
Part 2 of my conversation with Kaitlin Bellamy about what it was like for her growing up in the Mormon Church and the ways that purity culture contributed to the abuse she experienced in her marriage. Purity Culture grooms people to enable, acc...
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Season 4
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Episode 5
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1:22:53
Purity Culture is Grooming - Part 1
Kaitlin Bellamy shares what it was like for her growing up in the Mormon Church and discusses the ways that purity culture contributed to the abuse she experienced in her marriage. Purity Culture grooms people to enable, accept, and perpetrate ...
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Season 4
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Episode 4
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1:38:46
Assaulted and Stalked Abroad - A Personal Story
In 2006 I was assaulted and stalked by a monk in India. In this episode I share my journal entries recording this experience and then discuss the ways this trauma has affected my life. I discuss the intersecting issues of race, culture, and gen...
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Season 4
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Episode 3
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2:04:08
Then and Now
In this episode my friend Sage and I listen to audio we recorded two years ago during lockdown and reflect on it. We talk about (and feel our way through) some of the very intense systemic issues we're facing in America and in the world. We tal...
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Season 4
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Episode 2
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1:19:39
This Was Slightly Less On Fire When I Left...
We're back! In this episode I'll be sharing what I've been up to on my break, what I have planned for this season of the podcast, and I'll be talking about a really rough day I had last week in the wake of Roe vs Wade being overturned.L...
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Season 4
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Episode 1
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1:04:08
Gratitude and Updates
This is the last episode of Season 3! Today I'll be taking some time to thank everyone who made this season possible, updating you about my plans and exciting new content during my break, as well as letting you know about some changes moving fo...
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Season 3
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Episode 15
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21:53
Letters for the Fire
Earlier in Season 3 I invited listeners to participate in a project called Letters for the Fire. It was an invitation for communal catharsis and healing. I invited listeners to write a letter to their rapist or abuser, and I would read it in an...
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Season 3
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Episode 14
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45:12
The Assault I Don't Discuss - A Personal Story
In this episode I share my experience of anal rape, discuss the dangerous myth that boys/men/AMAB people can't control themselves, discuss consent, and talk about some of the reasons why it was so difficult for me to identify this particular as...
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Season 3
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Episode 13
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47:24
Healing After Military Sexual Assault
Vanessa is a veteran and a survivor of sexual assault within the military. Vanessa shares her story of trauma, her feelings of shame and lack of self-worth, and her spiral into depression which nearly ended in suicide. She found strength and sh...
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Season 3
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Episode 12
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2:24:07
